I still remember being snuggled into Heyma’s orange 70’s chair, one of two that currently grace the foyer in my home. We had just finished gargantuan bowls of grot flavored with cinnamon sugar, butter, and cream…all the low calorie stuff. I always loved getting away to her house. To me it was a castle with too many mysteries to discover and I spent most of my time exploring. That day we were reclining in her den, talking about how the crystals dangling from her windows reflected intriguing rainbows all over the walls and ceiling and how the gluttonous birds consumed a whole bag of bird seed that week.
Life was simple there. I still escape to that place often in my mind, recalling every stairway (there were five) and bedroom and mirror on the wall. It has been etched in my brain as a place of rest and solace. It was where I could be completely me and utterly accepted and loved for every flaw and asset. I was encouraged to experiment and experience life and nature and history.
I guess, really, it wasn’t the place, but the person. Heyma had a way of being joyful in every situation. Obnoxious to some, but it bubbled out freely and oozed onto anyone that was nearby, whether they liked it or not. I guess that is why my grandpa, Umpa, married her. He was a rather solemn and somewhat sad (misunderstood) man. Of course Heyma was perfect for him. She hummed or sung as she dug thistle in the yard, while she scrubbed the toilet, or while she prepared a meal for four grown men and four grandchildren for lunch. Her joy was unbreakable.
Now that I am an adult, I know my time there wasn’t always probably that carefree and perfect. I know I wasn’t the most pleasant child to have around, especially if I didn’t get my way, but I don’t really care. That’s where I found myself and was accepted. Heyma helped build me.
On this particular day, Good Friday, after having our bellies full of grot for breakfast, Heyma started to talk about her mother. Her face became very serious, “My mother used to weep all day on Good Friday and cried, ‘Do you know what they did to my Savior?'”
Her characteristic grin was muddled by a small tear and silence. I didn’t know what to say. My little elementary-aged-mind couldn’t quite comprehend why someone would be so sad on a day called Good Friday. I wanted to say,”It’s okay, Heyma. It happened a long time ago. You don’t need to cry. It was good Jesus died.”
That was all true. It was good Jesus died…
I am ashamed that I missed that moment. Maybe I wasn’t ready or mature enough to share in that sacred minute with Heyma. I get it now, though. If Heyma wasn’t 97 and didn’t suffer so sourly from Alzheimer’s, I would tell her, “I get it. I finally get it.”
Yes, Good Friday is good because Jesus died for the sins of the world, but Lord forgive me that I forget that group of sinners definitely includes me.
It wasn’t “what THEY did to my Savior,” but what I DID. It was me and it was my sin that put Him there. My sin is what brought Him to the cross and compelled Him to suffer alone for me. Me.
How can I not be sober on this day? Yes, I can rejoice for his sacrifice, but why did anyone have to sacrifice for me? I deserve hell. I deserve punishment. It isn’t right to kill Jesus (or anyone) for my shame.
Lord, I wish I could just, for a moment, comprehend how horrific your sacrifice truly was. It is not fair and I am ashamed that I so willingly brush it off and spiritualize everything just because I have heard it one million times. How often do I need to hear Your story before it all sinks in? To realize it isn’t just a story. It was Your life. It was Your sacrifice. For me. For my sins. It was the price You were willing to pay to spend all eternity with me, because of Your obsessive love for me. What needs to break for me to comprehend this? Lord, help me to see clearer today.