I ran 8.5 miles today. I vowed from the day I moved into our little farmhouse by the ethanol plant that I would conquer my highway and run the little over 4 miles and back to a childhood memory house of Charlie and Carol Piekarski. It only took three years (and two babies) later for me to finally put my shoes on and start the trek, but I did it! I actually did it!
As I was running back from their house, every member on my face was curved in a smile. I was absolutely elated. Proud. I felt like I could have run forever, well, at least to my house. But then it occurred to me, man, Manda, how in the world do you expect to run a 26.2 mile race if your longest run is only 8.5 miles?
With that one thought, my whole delight deflated.
My gait started to slow, my breathing began to get heavier and more difficult and I realized, man alive, there’s no way I’m ready for a stupid marathon!
It was in that moment that I heard so clearly within a bulging question, “Manda, I have your heart, but what about your mind?”
I have never thought of that before. I’m pretty sure God has ALL OF ME, but maybe not. Probably not.
See, I have been on a heart kick lately: my new motto being about the transformation of the heart. I would say it is quite a bit more than a kick, more like a soapbox…
I am tired of the restraints I put myself and God into. I am tired of the outward holiness I and other Christians hold onto while we’re rotting inside of wretchedness and judgmental pride. I am sick of being bound by have tos and that I have lost what it means to be transformed from the inside out and just doing anything good out of the honest love for Jesus Christ. I am so tired of how some of those I love are judged by how many times they are in church a week. And I am even more disgusted by how many times we can beat those that desperately need hope with more Law and more things their failing at and more shoulds and have tos. Sigh. See, my soapbox. Sorry…but like I said, those are some things God has been working in me lately…well, until today.
Until today when not only did God question my heart, but my mind. The voice within continued, “I can do far more within you than your body can accomplish! Give me your mind.”
I am ashamed. While it is a continuous effort and surrender of my heart to Christ, it becomes easier and easier as He woos me and creates in me the peace and joy and unending contentment from being with Him. But somehow, in the messiness of life, I have divorced my heart from my mind. While I am asking for an undivided heart and one that follows what makes His heart beat, I have forgotten what it means to give Him (next to the heart) perhaps the most powerful and dangerous part of myself.
For most of my life, I have convinced myself that I was unlovable, too fat, genderless and the only way to feel alright again was to stuff myself with food. I allowed people to define me by their words and their glances and their interactions with me, which as you can imagine in this senile world, were not always positive. I allowed the very definition of Manda to be determined by confused, broken individuals just like me. And I only ate to continue their prophecies over me.
What.
A.
Mistake.
I wish I could say that this thinking is far gone from me, but I would be lying. I have grown up a bit from these thoughts, but instead of trying to measure up, I find myself trying to attain what I lost from the past. Longing to know what it feels like to be in “the best shape of my life” and to wear a fancy prom dress (I always wanted to go to some type of formal occasion) or even wear a wedding dress I felt knockout gorgeous in (don’t ask about my wedding dress experience).
And even stupid dreams like that, they are still dreams. I still have a feeling of wanting what was kept from me…and yet, what was truly kept?
I have allowed my morbid obesity to follow me. Whether I wear the label anymore or not, I have lived in its shadow and let it stop me from doing things I’ve always wanted to do.
So when do I step out and stop hiding? When do I rip off the chains and say so longto the painful labels and memories? When do I start to spread the transformation of my heart to clarify the confusion in my mind?
Today.
This year.
2014.
See, I have tried multiple times now to muster up some type of writing for this blog. Thoughts came. Sometimes I would start the first few sentences and then stop, only to be forgotten and abandoned. And since I started to finally coin myself as a writer, after writing for over two decades and even going to college for it, I felt like this was my new beginning.
But maybe that’s just it…maybe I’m still in the beginning.
I asked the Lord in January that He would do something different in this year. When I said different, I really didn’t know how that would look, but I was willing to roll with it. And the Lord definitely heard my prayer, in more ways than I could possibly comprehend or compile in a little writing on this little blog…so I haven’t written a word. In fears of belittling or stealing the mysterious beauty of what God was doing, I have felt like my hands were to be still and my words be hushed…
Until the right moment.
So here I am, in the awkward place for a writer. I have no happy ending or special pinpointed message for my reader to take away from my ramblings. I have thoughts spewed all over the screen. I have no direction and no special finish to make you feel satisfied. But to be honest, that’s exactly where I am in the process, too.
Is it okay to be somewhere in the beginning and still write about it? I assume I’m in the beginning. I mean, even now, I have no clue where God is taking me with my heart and my brain and my silly dreams of marathons and prom dresses and maybe even assisting Christine Caine in her ministry to stop human trafficking. I just know something needs to be fixed. Something within me is starting to surface and it’s about time I wake up to smell more than roses, but those prickly thistles that have lined my journey…I mean they give off some beautiful purple blossoms, too.
It’s time to let God do some rewiring in my mind…and maybe connect my heart and brain again.
As far as the running, well, I’ll just keep training. I need more protein and more strength training to get rid of that rubbing belly when I run, says the YMCA trainer. But I guess that may take years, so I’ll just keep going and see what else God says during my runs.